To Write or To Recite, That is the Question

Weddings should be a once in a lifetime experience so when it comes to deciding whether to write your own special vows or to read more traditional vows is a very important decision.

 On one hand, traditional vows are “the wedding words” known to little girls all over. Growing up when you thought of a wedding, “I, excited bride, take handsome groom, to be my lawfully wedded husband… till death do us part” is exactly what came to mind. Nervous your guests will think traditional vows are boring? Don’t be! There is a reason these powerful words are a classic. There are always other ways to personalize your wedding ceremony, so if these traditional words are the way to create your special day, go for it!

On the other hand, personalizing your wedding vows can make the ceremony that much more special to the Mr. and Mrs. to be. There are so many different paths you can take when creating your own vows. To really build your own you first have to start out with a few simple questions like what’s the greatest thing about the person you’re going to marry and what does marriage mean to you? Asking yourself questions that matter help push you in the right direction. To initiate your own originality, read vow templates, traditional, funny, romantic, or even quirky ones. This will show you what you like and don’t like. Finally you put it all together and voilà; you have all the tools necessary to starting your unique vows. 

However, there is still one last obstacle to tackle: choosing your officiant, typically a priest. There are some officiants that do not feel comfortable allowing you to write any of your own vows and some that encourage it. When seeking out an officiant it is very important to let them know exactly what you have in mind. Whichever path you chose is up to you and your significant other alone. Either decision is special and meaningful in its own way.  Once everyone is on the same page you can begin creating the vows for your special day!