To Write or To Recite, That is the Question

Weddings should be a once in a lifetime experience so when it comes to deciding whether to write your own special vows or to read more traditional vows is a very important decision.

 On one hand, traditional vows are “the wedding words” known to little girls all over. Growing up when you thought of a wedding, “I, excited bride, take handsome groom, to be my lawfully wedded husband… till death do us part” is exactly what came to mind. Nervous your guests will think traditional vows are boring? Don’t be! There is a reason these powerful words are a classic. There are always other ways to personalize your wedding ceremony, so if these traditional words are the way to create your special day, go for it!

On the other hand, personalizing your wedding vows can make the ceremony that much more special to the Mr. and Mrs. to be. There are so many different paths you can take when creating your own vows. To really build your own you first have to start out with a few simple questions like what’s the greatest thing about the person you’re going to marry and what does marriage mean to you? Asking yourself questions that matter help push you in the right direction. To initiate your own originality, read vow templates, traditional, funny, romantic, or even quirky ones. This will show you what you like and don’t like. Finally you put it all together and voilà; you have all the tools necessary to starting your unique vows. 

However, there is still one last obstacle to tackle: choosing your officiant, typically a priest. There are some officiants that do not feel comfortable allowing you to write any of your own vows and some that encourage it. When seeking out an officiant it is very important to let them know exactly what you have in mind. Whichever path you chose is up to you and your significant other alone. Either decision is special and meaningful in its own way.  Once everyone is on the same page you can begin creating the vows for your special day! 

Problem Guests

Some of my fiance's friends can get a little rowdy, and I'm afraid after one too many drinks, a problem can arise.  How do I handle any outbursts without seeming rude?

Keep in mind, that it is YOUR big day, and if you have to seem rude, then so be it.  You will have enough stress as it, and you don't need to worry about others who may sabotage your wedding without intending to. If you're worried, casually bring up this issue with your fiance.  Ask him to tell his guys to behave because you know they can have a little too much fun.  Slip in that you'll tell your girls the same thing, and he won't think you're directing the topic only at him.  If you're still a little concerned, make a lighthearted joke when his friends are around, and hopefully they'll take the hint.  

If an incident does occur at your wedding, you shouldn't have to be the one to deal with it.  You should be showing off on the dance floor with your bridesmaids while your new husband ushers them away.  Don't be too nervous that something like a fight might break out because chances are everyone will have the time of their life.  You'll forget you were stressed about it in no time.  

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Damsel in Dress Distress 

There seem to be so many more options for weddings dresses these days, besides the classic long, white dress.  What are some of the different options I have?

Everyone seems to be designing wedding dresses these days, whether it’s a celebrity or the woman doodling on her napkin next to you in Starbucks.  This is good news for you because the options are never-ending.  You’re bound to find something that will suit your taste, whether it’s more modern or more classic. 

If you want to try something modern and unique, go short.  This is hard for many women to do because it just doesn’t seem right for a wedding because long has always been the go-to.  But short wedding dresses are popping up all over the place, and before you know it, wearing one might not be so original.  If you do decide short is the way to go, try making different aspects of your ensemble more classic.  Try a longer veil or a timeless necklace and bracelet pair.  Also, feel free to play around with your hairstyle…these little things can balance the short dress and compliment it well. 

Lace is eternal, and today, it’s at the height of its popularity.  Many dresses are just trimmed with lace here and there, but why not go for a bold lace statement.  Lace sleeves are being seen everywhere…from the runway to on the racks of Forever 21.  They are stunning, timeless, and unique, plus a light material, so you can’t go wrong!  Your husband-to-be will love it just as much as you…CYE guarantees it!

You also don’t have to go totally modern, or all classic.  Why not try a combination of both?  Some longer dresses are now shapelier up top and then widen out at the knee, for an almost mermaid-like look.  It’s timeless, yet modern.    

Themes: Simple & Sweet

I want my wedding to be memorable, and I think one way I could do this would be with a theme.  I don’t want it to be over the top, though, so what themes should I consider?

Start small.  If you think about it, you’re wedding probably already has a few themes that you have yet to notice, like the color scheme.  Whether you’re a think pink kind of girl, or a many shades of blue girl, you can go off of that scheme.  Those hues of blue could lead your straight to a beachy, by the sea themed wedding.  Go a different direction by deciding if you want a classic or more modern wedding.  Maybe even vintage?! 

Also consider the location of your wedding.  If it’s outdoors, the themes are never-ending.  Whether the theme revolves around flowers everywhere, or something more wooded and rustic, you can play your wedding up or down.   Don’t worry about going over the top, though.  Yes, a whole Star Wars themed wedding will most likely be over the top, but if you think simple and sweet, you are bound for success.  

Don’t be afraid to draw themes from a few different places as well.  It may be colors (the linens), vacations spots (the flowers), and your favorite movie (the bridesmaids’ dresses) all in one.  Inspiration from everywhere and everything you love will make it unique to you.     

The Guest List: How to keep your small wedding from turning into your big, fat Greek wedding 

I don’t want my wedding to be too small or too big.  How do I decide who is worth inviting, and who would be offended if they didn’t receive an invite?

Your wedding guest list can be rather tricky, especially if you know you don’t want a huge wedding.   When you do know you want a big wedding, you don’t stop to think that maybe your preschool best friend probably could care less about what you’re doing with your life twenty-some years later.  It takes careful consideration about who you should weed out and who it would mean a lot to if they scored an invite to your big day.  So the first step towards the perfect guest list is to sit down with your fiancé and write down everyone who you could think of possibly inviting.  This will make it easier for your brain to focus on each guest.  It’s also easiest to start with your friends because there are your close friends and then there are your acquaintances.  If you haven’t spoken about something important to someone, who you once considered a pretty good friend, in the past year, it’s probably safe to say you shouldn’t be sending them an invite.  Trust us, the invites will add up fast, and before you know it your small wedding will turn into your big, fat greek wedding. 

When it comes to family, your parents should be your go-to.  Mom and dad will be sure to help you decide whether your twice-removed cousin, who you last saw when you were ten, should be invited or not.  But remember, mom might be more likely to say “Yes, of course invite your great aunt you meant once when you were 3!” than she would about someone on your dad’s side because she doesn’t want to offend anyone from her side.  People will understand, though; the economy still isn’t at its best and more importantly, the ones who are closest to you should be spending your special day with you. 

To help you feel more organized, have a Plan A guest list and Plan B.  If someone from the Plan A list cannot make it, send an invite to someone on the Plan B list.  Also, to be able to include more people on your Plan A list, don’t invite children.  Three children could equal three coworkers who you actually see on a daily basis.  As goes with children, don’t feel the need to include a “plus one” on your single best friend’s invite if she doesn’t have a boyfriend.  Not only will it will subtract one from your guest list, but also, your best friend won’t feel pressured to scramble for a date.       

Family Feud


I love my family to death, but they can be a nightmare sometimes.  I’m afraid this will cause drama on my wedding day this summer.  How can I prevent sticky situations without turning into the evil daughter?

There is wedding stress….and then there is mom stress... which we all know can be a completely different story.  On your wedding day, it might feel like your 16 again fighting with your mom about taking a car ride with the boy-next-door.  She might be the controlling type, too, and want everything to be just like it was on her wedding day.  So before the drama even begins, take your mom aside and remind her it’s your day.  Also, remind her that of course you need and would love her help, but only with things you ask for.  You’ll be stressing out enough for the both of you when your maid of honor is running late…very late, so avoid the unneeded anxiety with the ones your love. 

Another problem area may be someone like your sister or cousin.  When she starts complaining about how unnatural your up-do is, tell her you can handle your hair, and direct her to focusing on the other bridesmaids’ hair styles.  If you give her a few other tasks, she will leave you alone with some moments to breathe. 

Dads are usually able to keep their cool during events like this, but when the show is running late, he may get a little testy.  If you aren’t already aware, your dad may be sure to remind you every five minutes that you are getting closer and closer to the walk down the aisle; you’ll be ready to pull your veil right out.  Think how he might be feeling, though.  He is most likely a little nervous for his big debut, and also, his little girl is officially all grown up.  Remember that your family is going to be uptight because of the wedding stress, but also, because they aren’t quite ready to let you go.  Just be happy you have your loving family to support you, and your big day will run quite smoothly!     

To Pet or Not to Pet?

Is it practical to have my adorable and beloved dog in my wedding or will guests be secretly judging me for a childish decision?

Here at CYE, we can’t say no to a cute face.  Personally, if the love of my life (my Papillion named Bijou) is still alive on my wedding day, she will be attending of course.  But there are some things you must keep in mind if you want your dog, cat, or even pig (yes, this has happened) at your ceremony.  There would be nothing worse than your groom reciting his loving vows and then suddenly being interrupted by your Chihuahua barking for his life at the squirrel running up a nearby tree.  So have an honest conversation with yourself.  If there is even the slightest chance that Spot may suddenly try to sprint after the flower girl, leave him at home.  Your wedding day will be stressful enough, and no one will criticize you for wanting it to be as perfect as can be.  People love animals, though, so when your guests see your dad walking you down the aisle with leash in hand, the awe-factor will be out of this world.  Keep in mind that weddings aren’t as serious these days.  Of course the idea itself is very serious, but young people are making their weddings memorable these days with fun ideas.  I’m sure many of you have seen YouTube videos of the bridesmaids and groomsmen dancing down the aisle.  This shows that you can have fun with it, and maybe when your Great Dane knocks down your 5 year old nephew, the ring-bearer, people will roar with laughter.  The key to a great wedding is for it to be unique to you and your groom…if it makes you happy, it will make everyone happy.  

Being the Best Bridesmaid You Can Be!

One of my best friends just asked me to be one of her bridesmaids, and I’m super excited!  I have to admit I’m a little worried, though, because I’ve never been one before.  Give me the Bridesmaid 101, please!

If you’ve seen the recent movie Bridesmaids¸ you may be thinking the bridesmaid task is a little daunting.  Don’t get us wrong, here at CYE we are a big fan of the comedy, but it shows that being a bridesmaid isn’t always fun and games and may require a little work on your part. 

The work isn’t supposed to be taxing, though, but instead, a great time.  For example: figuring out the wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses is any girl’s dream, so give your opinion!  Let her know what color schemes work and what heels are just plain ugly.  But if it’s breaking your bank to buy the bridesmaids dress, the designer bangles, and a French manicure on top of it alll, ask her to consider some alternatives.  I guarantee the other bridesmaids will be happy someone spoke up.  And don’t be afraid to say no in general.  You have your own relationships, work, and family that need your attention, as well.  Of course your friend is one of your many priorities, but if she requests a 6 a.m. conference call about the seating arrangement, you can feel free to sit that one out.  Also, keep in mind that you can always hire a wedding planning company (like CYE of course!) to designate some of the bigger tasks, too.  That’s our job!  We know you have your own to worry about.  Also, your friend is going to have a lot of stress to deal with, which is where you come into play.  You need to be the relaxed one...the one who always has it together (even if you don't feel that way, it's okay!).  It will give your friend the reassurance she needs.  You should be the friend she can call at 3 a.m. on the day of her wedding, who can calm her down.  Also, be the wild and crazy friend, who she can count on to give her the best bachelorette party.  Bring out a different side of her before the big day!  That all being said, good luck and don't forget to have fun!  

Speaking in public is hard enough as it is, but when it's in front of people you know, the bar is raised.  Don't fret, though!  Completely Yours Events has you covered on the do's and don't's of wedding toasts!

I have to give a toast at my best friend’s wedding…Help!

           

Short and sweet is the key!  Keep it simple, and speak from the heart.  Also, don’t bring up your friend’s past…meaning past hookups or embarrassing moments.  You may think the time when your friend fell down the stairs at your wedding after one too many drinks is hysterical, but a crowd of people may not understand the inside joke.  Your friend will also probably not appreciate the humor.  People often resort to humor or the past when they don’t know what to say, so if you have to write your toast down, please do!  No one will think anything of it!  If you try too hard to be funny or serious, it’ll show; instead, be yourself.  This advice can apply to any aspect of your life, as well!  

Need fashion advice?!  Completely Yours Events has you covered this Friday right before you go out for the weekend!

I can’t afford to buy a dress for my friend’s upcoming wedding that will only be a one-time hit.  What kind of dress is not only appropriate for a wedding but also one that my boyfriend would love to see on date night? 

We know how a tight budget feels, and this is a favorite here at Completely Yours Events!  What’s great about this dress is that the length makes it very appropriate for a wedding or other bigger event, but at the same time, it is not too fancy.  The plunging neckline is sexy, yet sophisticated, and we are sure your boyfriend would approve, especially pared with a pretty pair of heels or wedges!  The dress also comes in four colors, so whether you’re looking for a deep color for winter, or a flirty color for summer, J. Crew has you covered.  Did we mention it’s also on sale?!

Kira Dress in Silk Organza

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This Mini Tulip dress is another piece we love, and it is perfect for a late spring or early summer wedding!  It is more casual, but the sophisticated neckline pairs well with the shorter length making it appropriate for an engagement party, work, or a date.  The tulip pattern is sure to catch anyone’s eye, and the fluttery sleeve makes it a little different.  With the interchanging of a cute clutch and sandals or heels, this dress can go from day to night time in a hurry!

ASOS Mini Tulip Dress

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Happy June 1st!  With wedding season kicking into full gear, Completely Yours Events knows you probably have a few questions about your wedding, your best friend's wedding, or weddings in general.  With that being said, this month Completely Yours Events’ is offering you our Wedding Etiquette 101 every Friday!

My wedding is quickly approaching and the R.S.V.P. date has passed.  Is it okay to call the guests who have to yet to respond?

Of course!  Call as soon as you can reach a phone.  It is completely understandable to need to know this piece of information seeing as it affects a lot about your wedding, like how many favors to order and how much food you will need.  Start off by asking them if they have received your invitation, and throughout the conversation, try not to let your annoyance show through.  That being said, make sure you always promptly R.S.V.P. to invitation of any kind.  When planning a wedding or any sort of event, we know response tardiness is frowned upon.  Also, if you are using a wedding planning or other service for your wedding (like Completely Yours Events!), they can handle the guests who have and have not responded to your invitation, so you'll never have to break a sweat! 

What to do this Memorial Day weekend?

A Very Happy Memorial Day from Completely Yours!

An extra day added to the weekend goes a long way!  You may want to spend your weekend relaxing (which Completely Yours completely understands!), but if you're around the NOVA/DC area, check out these events if you're ready to get out!

If you want to participate in National events, you have a chance to on Sunday and Monday.  The National Memorial Day concert is on Sunday at p.m., and it's free, which we love of course!  Actors Joe Mantegna and Gary Sinise will be there along with other artists and the National Symphony Orchestra.  On Monday, there is the National Memorial Day Parade at 2 p.m.  Marching Bands and Veterans units from across the U.S. will be in the parade along with floats and balloons.  There are also numerous memorials on Monday, including the World War II Memorial, Air Force Memorial, and Vietnam Veterans Memorial.

From Saturday to Monday, there is a festival in Vienna called Viva!Vienna!, which is perfect if you have children...they will definitely enjoy the magic show!  Also, there will be crafts, carnival rides, and a Memorial Day tribute.  There will be a lot of food, too...definitely a plus!  On Monday, Falls Church will be having a parade and festival from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.  This festival is also great for children with its pony rides and arts and crafts.  There will be live entertainment and food, as well.

A beautiful event that all of us at Completely Yours wish we could attend is Sunset at Mount Vernon.  On Friday through Sunday, you can tour George Washington's Mount Vernon Estate and Gardens by foot or by wagon-ride.  After the tour, there will be wine and dessert with music, dancing, and games.  An 18th-century blast from the past!

Completely Yours hopes you kick off summer the fun way with some great events!